Showing posts with label school frustrations. Show all posts
Showing posts with label school frustrations. Show all posts

Thursday, 3 May 2012

Schools Today (Rant)

I have been trying to figure out wether schools are less demanding now than when I was young. The thought occurred to me because of a project Daughter is working on. 

Daughter's class is doing a module on space. The children have a project to prepare that they will present to the class in small groups. Daughter's team is going to talk about artificial satellites. She has been doing her research and pooling her findings with her teammates and they are starting to put their presentation together. What bothers me is this: they have decided to dress up as Darth Vader and some storm troopers. O-kay... Are they going to talk about the battle station that was orbiting a planet, the one that Han and the gang mistook for a moon in one of the movies? Are they going to mention that the battle station was an artificial satellite of the planet? No... but they do need light sabers and fake blood. (If you're thinking, HUNH?!?!?! - I'm with you!)

This doesn't make any sense. If this is to be a serious scientific presentation, why is my daughter concerned about getting her hands on some fake blood so that one of the storm troopers can kill her with a light saber and it can be realistic? Does the teacher know about this? Is she encouraging it? The mind boggles.

I think that the problem is that today's kids are encouraged to do too many things in the interest of building up their self-esteem, but it would be better if sometimes we just outright told them that an idea is... not educationally sound. (I tried to put that as nicely as I could.) This presentation is supposed to be scientific. It is for school. Simulating acts of violence while dressed as Darth Vader and storm troopers would never have been acceptable in my day. In fact, it wouldn't be acceptable now if I were the teacher. Learning about space is cool enough. You shouldn't have to dress it up.

Another example that had me thinking about the mediocrity of today's education was when daughter's class, along with the two other classes in her year, held an international food-tasting event during nutrition month. They were to work in groups of two or three to prepare an international dish for the event. They also had to prepare a poster, handouts and a presentation on the food. Of the twenty-some groups presenting a dish, about five of them had prepared smoothies and presented them as an American dish. FIVE! I guess there was no rule saying you couldn't prepare the same dish as another team, but there are three classes, so some of these kids were preparing the same dish - and I use the term "dish" loosely - as other teams in their own class. Why wouldn't a teacher pick up on that?

Maybe I am just being a culinary snob, but the fact that the farthest some people were willing to go for international cuisine was the US really bothered me. I think that this was a lazy way out, especially when compared to the dishes some of the other teams prepared. There were hot and cold dishes, main courses and desserts, and there were some that even in this day and age of globalization, I had never heard of before. These dishes actually taught me something.

Getting back to the quality of education... Education is supposed to prepare children to be responsible, useful citizens in tomorrow's world. As many people are fond of saying about a new-born baby, "This child could grow up to be Prime Minister." So, how are our schools preparing our children to face the future? I gotta tell you, I don't know. When I went to this international food event, held in the school gymnasium, I was disappointed in the presentations that the children made. Basically, all they did was stand there with a piece of paper in their hands and read off the recipe for their dish, despite the fact that their handout WAS the recipe. Back when I was young, we would have had to say why we chose the dish, what we liked about it, what country it came from, what we learned from this project... just to name a few ideas. These kids printed out the recipes and read them to us. They didn't even bother to convert to the first person so they could say, "I took these ingredients..." No! They just read the ingredients off in point-form, then talked in the infinitive. "Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Wash and peel the potatoes. Cut them into cubes."

I feel really mean griping about this, but it really isn't the kids that I am complaining about here. The way I see it, the kids are the victims. They are not being taught important skills such as thinking and communication. I know they practiced their presentations before the big day. Did it never occur to the teachers to ask them to do a little more work? To at least memorize what they were going to say?

Recently, there was another module presentation at Daughter's school gymnasium: the Middle Ages. That day, when going from one table to the other, I was actually glad that the posters the children had prepared mostly had their presentations printed on them word for word. This is because you couldn't understand a word of what anyone was saying. I think there were about three children in the whole fifth-grade year who were able to talk loud enough to be heard from across the table that they were standing behind. Everywhere around the gym, parents were leaning in and furrowing their brows in concentration, trying to understand what was being said. Then, everyone politely nodded and told the kids what a good job they had done! I admit, (and maybe they thought I was being rude, but) I interrupted and asked the kids to speak up. I couldn't hear a thing!

Again, I am not saying that it is the children's fault. The teachers were walking around looking so proud and commenting about how the kids were doing it "comme des grands". (Like big kids.) They are big kids! But they aren't being challenged! Why can the teachers not teach them to do better than what they can do on their own? PUSH them a little, for goodness' sake! Not to mention the fact that this is supposed to be a really good school. Daughter had to pass an entrance exam just to get in. But I really don't see it challenging her at all. Overcrowded classrooms and minuscule budgets are not a problem for these teachers. I'm starting to wonder if the extra money to pay for this program isn't just going out the window. Is she really benefitting from this education any more then if she were in a regular school? Sometimes I wonder.

What really annoys me is when I have to be the bad guy and push the kids to do better when they have finished their homework and think they did it well enough. When First Son finishes his math problems, he is outraged that I would think to look it over. He says there is no need to correct it because the teacher will correct it. Well, that's not good enough for me, especially when I see that he has made mistakes in the word problems. But his attitude completely baffles me. He is perfectly happy to hand in things that are full of mistakes. What has happened to the work ethic? In my opinion, the teachers should be stricter about the quality of homework that gets turned in, not to mention that the work should be neat, not covered in smudges and stains.

I don't mean any malice by this post. After all, I myself went to university to become a teacher. When I taught, I was demanding with the kids, but they knew that when the job was finally done right, the praise was well-deserved. I have no right to be condescending towards teachers because I admit, I couldn't teach today. I don't have the patience for it. But, the teachers in our schools chose to be there! They studied and couldn't wait to get their diplomas so they could bring their enthusiasm and motivation to the classroom. They have a responsibility to our kids. But, standing on the sidelines, I am having a lot of trouble cheering for a team that doesn't care about the game. If the teachers don't push the kids more, they don't care enough about their vocation. And kids don't care. They don't want to do better. They just want to do what little is expected of them and they expect high praises when they are done. They have come to see that this is enough. They can just do this, the parents and teachers will ooh! and aah! over their mediocrity, and the kids will never know that they could have been so much more. Go Canada!

Thursday, 19 April 2012

Again with the brain...

This morning the plan was to come online and complain that my brain wouldn't leave well enough alone. Something happened and instead of getting past it, it won't let me forget. This morning, it was just frustrating but, in light of what just happened, I have to wonder what is going on?

Yesterday, Second Son forgot his lunch bag at home. I didn't notice that he wasn't carrying it when we walked to school, and I didn't notice it in the front hall either. But it was the beginning of my frustrations.

Normally, when a child forgets his lunch bag, I would expect the school to telephone the parents. But that is not when Second Son's school did. Instead, they gave him a hot lunch from the catering service. Then, the catering service called me and left me the bill number, saying that I had to send five dollars in the next day to pay for Second Son's lunch. Now, if I were to keep things in perspective, I would say that at least Second Son had gotten a warm lunch in his tummy and all's well that ends well. But, I am not in a frame of mind to keep things in perspective.

When I went to get the boys at school, I made a complaint about the way things had been handled. I told them that if this happens again, I expect the school to call me. While I recognize that sometimes calling the parents in the middle of the day doesn't help because they may be waaaaaay across town at work and won't make it to the school before the end of lunch period, I maintain that you never know until you try. The school didn't try.

I should also add here that I could easily have brought Second Son his lunch bag and, most frustratingly, that I intentionally did not sign the boys up for hot lunches this month because it just would way exceed my budget. Now, I find myself having to pay for a hot lunch anyway, AND at a higher price than if I had prepaid. Really frustrating.

The frustration doesn't end there though. Last night, I had this terrible dream that I was at home in the afternoon, and was just about to take a nap because I was really tired from cleaning, and Second Son walked in the door. In the dream, it was 3 pm and school wasn't finished yet. I was desperately frustrated that I couldn't take a nap, to the point where I was almost crying. I picked up my phone to call the school and berate them about letting a six-year-old leave the premises unsupervised, and to ask how they were keeping an eye on him if they didn't even realize that he was gone. But, it was one of those dreams where no matter how hard you try, you can't dial the correct number and you have to start over again and again. In my case, I was unable to find the school in my contact list and I had to keep looking and looking. I woke up very frustrated and upset.

This is what I had planned to post about, ending with a frustrated rant about how yesterday was yesterday and there is no point dwelling on it. But my brain IS dwelling on it. Why won't it let well enough alone. Obviously, it has something it needs to work out. I can't imagine what it is. I just want to forget about this. It is bloody frustrating and there is nothing I can do about it any more, so why not just let it go?

Why not? Well, because of what happened this afternoon. 

When I arrived this afternoon, one of the after-school care ladies wanted a word. I thought that she wanted to talk about the complaint I had made yesterday, but it was something entirely different.

Apparently, Second Son had been playing LEGOs this afternoon; he had been building a gun out of LEGO. This might be overlooked, but when he was finished, he started "shooting" at the other kids, who complained to the teacher. When she asked him to stop, he just "shot" at her. When she TOLD him to stop, he dumped all the LEGOs across the floor and stomped away. She made him pick up the LEGOs. He started to, then she went back to what she was doing, but a moment later the other kids informed her that Second Son had run off. She looked for him everywhere, in the halls, the washrooms, anywhere he could have gone. Finally, she wondered if he hadn't run home. She put a call out to all the teachers and everyone started looking, and finally she was about to call the police, when someone found him, locked in a shower stall with his feet pulled up. (The shower has a little ledge so the water won't run out, so they couldn't see his feet when they looked under.)

When they got him out of the shower stall, the teacher told him to sit down and he wasn't allowed to move. He kicked her! I can't believe it. I just can't believe it. Needless to say, he is gonna be punished. (Right after he gets off Skype - he is very busy now telling his father how he hates school. Then I will get an email from Daddy asking why I didn't tell him about it, when it just happened and the kids aren't even in bed yet. But yes, I prefer to blog about it first because I am trying to channel my frustrations into something other than going upstairs and yelling at my son. I very much want to deal with him in a calm manner.)

I guess what I was getting at when I started typing is this: was my brain trying to warn me that something would happen today? Is that what the dream was about? Would Second Son have run all the way home if he could have gotten out of the school? Honestly, after the dream, I was seriously considering taking him out of after-school care, although that would mean I have to be home for him to come eat lunch at 11:30, and I couldn't accept doctor's appointments in the afternoon any more, for fear that if the wait was too long I wouldn't be home by the time Second Son finished school. And I do have quite a lot of doctor's appointments to try to figure out what exactly is causing my health problems. Among other things, I am waiting to have a bone marrow biopsy. In the meantime, I have to have doctor's appointments, iron shots and blood tests. (Meetings with the social worker, etc., etc.)

Having Second Son come straight home from school might cause some scheduling conflicts with my daytime activities, but I was so frustrated with his school yesterday (and this morning, after the dream), that I was seriously considering it. Not to mention that it would save me a lot of money. Quebec prides itself on its $7 a day daycare, but when you have three kids it becomes $21 a day and I am always living in fear of my check bouncing when I have to pay at the beginning of the month.

I recognize that pulling Second Son out of school is not the answer. He - as most other boys his age - is obsessed with violence. Their favorite games are war, their favorite toys are weapons. I draw the line at guns, but they do have quite a few swords and light sabers at home to play with. I am always talking with them about how bad and sad war is, about how violence will not solve the problems of the world. But there is something about boys that I don't understand. The testosterone and the thirst for violence. I worry that when they get older and reach the age where it is no longer cool to be seen in public with Mommy, I will lose any chance of redeeming them as peaceable beings. I want boys that I can be proud of. I fervently hope that as they grow, they will mature into wisdom and peace. In the meantime, I will do my best, but setbacks like today's are really disheartening. 

Where was I going with this?
- I have been disappointed with our neighborhood school,
- I have been disappointed with Second Son's behavior,
- I have been frustrated by my brain and its mysterious ways. (Seriously, we are one body, can it not be a little clearer when trying to send me a message?!)



OVER AND OUT
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